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Wednesday, February 25, 2015




Can you imagine what lies in store for you, when you accept an invitation for a grand party to be held in connection with some important event?  No way. Actually it  starts an exciting thinking process ahead of the day. Some mental planning ensues. For instance, regarding the choice of a suitable dress for the occasion. Since you expect to meet, many friends or acquaintances after a long time gap, you naturally and consciously picture yourself wearing a certain dress and suitable accessories to enhance your personality. 

This apart, you begin to look forward to some carefree and fun filled moments of eating and chatting, exchanging notes and updating yourself about each others' past activities. In short, nostalgia sets in, imagination soars on cloud nine, and expectations fly high like colorful kites near ‘Basant’ festival. On the appointed day, trying to look your best, you step out of the car wearing your favorite heels, looking fresh, smart and elegant. 

Imagine your surprise when you reach the entry gate of the venue, there is no one to receive you. You walk to the elaborately erected 'Pandal', where you find a few people strolling about like lost souls because the hosts were  nowhere in sight. The caterers too seemed indifferent and unsure because they had not been given proper instructions about serving the snacks. So much for that grand party!

In fact, one runs into such situations, which belie our expectations often in our lifetime, though with minor differences. Moreover, in lighter vein you term such circumstances as falling from the sublime to the ridiculous or just encountering a damp squib when you had hoped for a grand spectacle.

Another case in point is the beauty products where there is a deep chasm between reality and expectations. You start using a particular shampoo, hair oil or conditioner, because of the fake ads where comely and curvy models walk around seductively displaying their lustrous, shiny and bouncy hair. They sell you false images by shrewdly working on your psychology. You suspend your disbelief and begin to identify yourself with those gorgeous looking models. The result is disappointment and empty pocket.

Similar is the case with expensive beauty lotions, anti-aging creams, face washes etc., which promise the moon with flawless, wrinkle free, glowing skin. The unscrupulous companies earn the moolah by manipulating our vulnerabilities.

Surprisingly, for my mother, curd or fresh milk heated and cooled, applied gently on face and rubbed on body while bathing was the panacea for all skin problems. Soap was a big No. 

Let’s go a little further:

The curious thing about life is that one is never likely to get what one expects or imagines in the course of one’s short sojourn here on this earth. We imagine something and something else happens. It is, I think rare that one’s dreams are fulfilled completely. It does not mean however, that one should stop dreaming about making it big one day. The beauty of life lies in ceaseless striving and knowing.
The gap between what we expect and what we achieve is actually a grandiose scheme of the Almighty to make our lives exciting and adventurous.

Friends,welcome here as always! 


  1. Yep, I can relate...♪

  2. This was a very well thought out commentary on our imaginations and expectations of life, Uppal! It is so very true that we are easily lured by false promises and inflated expectations, and then we are sure to be disappointed when reality dawns. I agree with you though, that it is good to hope and dream and have our fantasies, as long as we are able to "bounce back" when we discover that life indeed has other plans for us. I have found that most often where we end up is even better than where we thought we'd be, the road just had some twists and turns we were not expecting! I enjoyed your post very much, thank you!

  3. Just yesterday, I was thinking how my day's plan, and my actual day diverged. The Daughter was feeling not so great the previous day, so got to school late, and everything tumbled from there...

  4. I find most advertisements to be selling fake products. They try real hard to get us to waste our money..Your post is so true! Have a happy day!

  5. i beleive that good will always work.. so why do these companies have to spend so much money in making us beleive they are good .. if they are good then people will know :)


  6. I absolutely loved your quote on living like a river, and so agree with the excitement on meeting friends and wanna look your best *physically*
    Although, mentally it can charge up our innerself with the laughter, and smiles :)

    Great take, Uppaljee

  7. Nicely wrote up on the reality. These days almost ads on television, esp. on beauty products seemed faked. However we try, changing the skin tone is impossible and if some walk this trail waits great disappointment and ruining the skin.

  8. It is interesting how advertising stresses what the product sees as our imperfections by showing us what they deem perfect. But the truth is beauty is found in imperfection.

  9. Very well said Patricia! Ads cleverly target our insecurities to sell the products.How easily we're taken in!