"It is the one who lives in the house who knows where the roof leaks."
African Proverb
 |
| Courtesy Google |
W for wearer
Of course, who else does?
'ONLY THE WEARER KNOWS WHERE THE SHOE PINCHES' is an old saying that is the distillation of ancient wisdom. Its implications are relatable to the whole humankind and always teach us a lesson or two as social beings.
Our life is an amalgamation of binary oppositions. In fact, this dual nature of life imparts meaning to it. Otherwise, our life would not have been worth living. If there is, happiness there is suffering too. Most of the time nature maintains equilibrium between these two states. However, sometimes it is not so.
We can fairly make a guess about the episodes of joy in other people‘s lives. They are similar for everyone though the scale may be different. However, can we make the right guess about the miseries and agonized events in other people’s lives? No. Such incidents are painfully deep and personal. It is impossible to decipher the lurking doubts and embedded traumas, which others pass through.
There is a need to sensitize ourselves when we approach such individuals for sharing their grief. Mere preaching and thoughtless comments sans figuring out the extent of pain and suffering instead of soothing taut nerves will rather prick more. What is needed is your solid backing and reassurance in measured words.
The pain of desertion, divorce, recurring disputes in family matters, chronic disease, and death of a loved one, loss in business, filial ingratitude and scores of other tragic moments are too deep for words. One who experiences these suffers the scars inside; others can only offer lip service.
Since It is hard to interpret others’ sufferings one should be extra conscious not to hurt their sensibilities by casual remarks.
Friends welcome here as always!
Sharing with:
ABC Wednesday
My Corner of the world
Friends welcome here as always!
Sharing with:
ABC Wednesday
My Corner of the world
Very true, we never know what goes on in a person's life. We should tread kindly always.
ReplyDeleteSuzy at Photos are Fun dropping by from the ABCWednesday linkup.
You're right, we don't know what others are going through so it's always a good idea to be kinder than necessary.
ReplyDeleteThanks for joining 'My Corner of the World' this week!
My Corner of the World
Hari OM
ReplyDeleteIt is true. I think every culture in the world has a line of such wisdom and we all do well to remember that we can never truly feel as another feels. YAM xx
We are quick to pass judgments about others-like she has a weepy face,he never smiles but few tarry to look deep enough and be empathetic.
ReplyDeleteNice post Uppal.
Very true.
ReplyDeleteTotally with you! The people who joins for fun stepsaway when suffering stucks.
ReplyDelete