FIRST SUMMER SHOWERS !

time for pulling down the  juicy mangoes after rain

It was getting more and more intense each day. I mean the onslaught of heat. Yesterday, like any other day, started with a piercing bright sunshine. So much so that even spreading clothes on the clothesline outside created a sensation of burning skin. By the late afternoon however, the contours of the sky appeared to be changing. In place of clear blue skyline, there was a whole sheet of grey slowly covering the overhead canopy. It was an eagerly awaited sign of anticipated respite from the sizzling heat.

  

As the evening stepped in, the sky morphed itself and brought forth mild thunder accompanied by flashes of lightning. Lo and behold, in no time we were welcoming the blessed first summer showers. What a relief it was! The temperature came down and cool breeze replaced the scorching hotness. The drizzle continued throughout the night and helped us to have a restful sleep.

I woke up today to an overcast sky and the mood is upbeat. I am sure the day will prove to be a lot productive. We in north India are thanking the rain gods for their kind gesture. Amen!

Friends, you are welcome with your comments.

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PEACE IS A VERITABLE GIFT

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'P' IS FOR PEACE

At the moment, I think nobody knows better than me the supreme value of peace and solitude. However, the realization dawned on me the difficult way. Here I‘m not going to dwell on the philosophical or spiritual aspect of the concept of peace but would talk about it in terms of a more mundane side of life.

It so happened that we had to take an arduous decision, the one we had been postponing, figuratively speaking, for centuries.

We constructed our beautiful house more than three decades ago. Though, we had been going through minor repairs here and there but the thought of the jumbo task of renovation, always gave us jitters. However, the alarm bells chimed vociferously one day, when we disturbingly noticed seepage on the wall, wherein the pipes supplying water to the geyser had been fitted. That, of course meant the shocking urgency to pry open the common bedroom, bathroom wall, to pinpoint the spot. The emergent situation left no room for dodging. This was like pushing oneself into the lion’s pitch that too as the best alternative. Nothing short of that really.

Then there was another challenge waiting in the wings for quite some time. The floor laid with chips was spoiled through wear and tear and small stones had come out leaving tiny holes everywhere. It was not bothering us as such but it had become, no doubt, an eye sore and demanded urgent intervention.

Thus, dear friends we went ahead with many misgivings and I never knew, it’d be such a tough battle. For the last two months, I’ve been grumbling my heart out and splitting my hair waiting to get over with the uphill task literally. Though, to my chagrin the renovation marathon, like a balloon, gets extended and expanded somehow, perhaps as a retribution for some past aberration on my part.  As they say, the difficult days stretch too far and joyful days end too soon, so it is with me. The disgust of this never-ending adventure is piling up and I long for the peace that eludes me completely.

Surrounded by nasty cement bags, sand dunes, paints, brushes, carpentry tools and swathed in dust the whole day, you can imagine the messy situation I’m in. To cap it all, I’ve to serve more than a dozen cups of tea to the work force every day.

Another side effect of this ordeal is that dear hubby and I snap at each other all the time. He gets frustrated at the poor quality of the work and that saps his energy and makes him irritable. When I want him to listen, he stubbornly ignores me and I get angry. My cup of woes is full to the brim. The whole house is messed up and mason, plumber and carpenter are in and out of the house umpteen numbers of times. All the outer net doors remain open to facilitate their movement. I pay the price of free run inside the house of mosquitoes and flies that I loathe. At night, to get some sleep ( thee machhar bhagaoe) ‘Good Knight’ is installed to ward off the itchy mosquito stings. My other half is allergic to the chemicals in the contraption and gets stuffy nose. Helplessness rules abjectly.

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Still I hope things will fall in place soon. The good news is that the bathrooms are donning the inviting look after the makeover. The floor tiles are almost done. The paint job though the slowest one is nearing completion. The carpenter is busy removing the long pending hiccups in the woodwork. Normalcy is waiting to happen.

Frankly both of us are working like donkeys to put things in place and bring order and peace of mind in our lives once again. The freshly laundered curtains are ready to adorn the doors and windows in their crispy avatar. The paint is getting dry and losing that screwy odor. The newly laid nonskid tiles on the driveway got a profuse bath from my part time help. The verandas tiled in grey look elegant and the new design on the gate made with granite invites appreciative glances.

The fabulous look of the interiors, more than compensates for the ordeal I underwent. Finally I hope to be at peace soon enough.

Friends,share your experiences in a similar situation.
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I LOVE OCTOBER

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'O' IS FOR OCTOBER

October is one of the seven months with a length of 31 days. It takes its name from the Latin word   “Octo” meaning eight. Originally, Roman calendar had ten months and October was the eighth month. However, it retained its first name even after January and February were introduced into the calendar.

Frankly, I nurture a soft corner for this month. For one it is mild mannered and the other, it harbingers promising changes in the weather. I welcome it with open arms as it mercifully brings long awaited respite from the debilitating, stifling and irritatingly sticky September weather. The temperature slides down and the suffocating humidity comes down to normal levels. Doors and windows dry out the moisture and start fitting properly.

Finally, we enter the ‘breathe easy state’ in the lap of sweet October.  Its ambience bolsters our spirits and sagging moods and restores the sapped energy. People appraise pending jobs and start making plans to execute them. Soon there is feverish activity all around. People get busy hiring painters and labor to get their houses white washed and painted. Festive spirit slowly takes over the lethargic tempo of the preceding months. Excitement in anticipation of the coming festivals and festivities slowly builds up.

October ushers in Dussehra, our much-loved festival. It is celebrated in most parts of the country as a symbol of ‘victory of good over evil’. On this day king, Rama killed the demon king Ravana who had abducted Sita his wife through vile deceit.  The effigies of Ravana and two others representing evil are consigned to flames at Ram Lila grounds in most regions of the country.

Exactly 20 days after Dussehra comes Deepavali “the festival of lights”. On this day, King Rama comes back to his kingdom after attaining victory over the evil king Ravana . People celebrate his arrival with rejoicings and lighting clay lamps.

Around Diwali there is surfeit of sweets, exchange of gifts, bursting of crackers and lighting of earthen lamps and sparklers. Strings of multi colored electric bulbs shine and twinkle on the parapets of houses. During the 20 days prior to the gala day, people engage in marathon cleaning sprees of their houses and surroundings. Special decorations are done to welcome the Goddess of wealth and good luck. Consumerism peaks before Diwali.

grain market scene with paddy filled bags

October also signifies abundance of life sustaining  grain. Around the end of October, farmers harvest Paddy and grain markets are flooded with the produce.

I clicked this beauty at the front yard of my son's house in the US

In our part of the country, nature heralds the ripening flavor of autumn. The deciduous trees prepare themselves for shedding leaves. Later leaves fall in droves on windy days.

The beauty of this season is resplendent in the West. I experienced the most enjoyable autumn in the company of riot of color last year in the US. That unique panorama of sensuous pleasures, I’ll cherish forever.

In the western world, the carnival of Halloween falls in this month. It is an important cultural event, where children have a blast of time wearing outlandish costumes and going from door to door chanting trick or treat. At the end of the day kids’ buckets overflow with confectionery collected from neighborhood.

The weird looking pumpkin lamps adorn the front yards of the houses.

October has its fair share of glory. It follows a middle path and shuns extreme weather conditions. It is considered an auspicious month for solemnizing weddings and other family functions.

Friends, your comments are welcome.
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NARCISSISM IS AS OLD AS HUMAN NATURE

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         N is for Narcissism

Friends, do you know that some peoples’ main credo in life is I, me and mine? While healthy interest in oneself promotes happiness and success,  foolish obsession with one's physical and mental superiority is tragically binding. Such people even start believing that the world exists only for them. Others’ reactions or opinions hold no significance for their cocooned minds. In fact, they brush aside any opposing stance to their own as contemptuous. Sometimes over trifles, they pretend to be hurt and victimized. They often accuse others of malicious intent towards them, where none exists. Harboring fantasies of grandiose schemes where they are the chief protagonist wielding power is their compulsive addiction.

Self-absorption and expecting others to toe their line ever, becomes central to their narrow thinking. Vanity and self-admiration acquire the status of their nagging need. Their worldview is confined to their own internal perceptions and they jettison the ground realities of life by a nonchalant nod.

The term 'Narcissism' originated with Narcissus from Greek mythology, a handsome young man who falls in love with his own reflection in a pool of water and fails to pull himself away. Subsequently he pines himself to death.

Later Sigmund Freud used this concept in his psychoanalytic theory. He developed the idea further in his book ‘On Narcissism’ as a personality disorder afflicting many.

One of the greatest examples of destructive Narcissism in literature is that of Shakespeare’s King Lear. On being asked how much she loves him, Cordelia his youngest daughter,  who unlike her cunning older sisters declares, “I love  your majesty/ according to my bond, no more no less” which so  enrages Lear that he curses Cordelia, disowns her and distributes his entire wealth and kingdom between his  other two daughters. His misery and humiliations that followed at the hands of his crafty daughters rouse pity at his ignorance of human nature. His childishness to expect the same authority, entitlements and sycophancy from his kin and minions, even after relinquishing his kingship speaks of intellectual immaturity even though he was the all-powerful king. How he fails to see through the empty rhetoric of Regan and Goneril claiming to love him above everything else in the world proves his shallow and tragic overestimation of his self.

Another fable, which is also a metaphor for tragic self-love, is that of a stag. He comes to drink water at a stream in the forest and is so mesmerized by the reflection of his majestic looking antlers that he fails to sense danger on time and though he runs for his life, his antlers get entangled in the bushes and he meets his death in the ferocious attack of the lion.

The worrisome part is that the malady of preoccupation with the self is becoming a rage amongst modern youth. Studies point out the electronic gadgets and social networking sites take up so much of their time that actual human contact becomes a casualty. Coupled with that the trend of being soft on children even when they make mistakes, for the false fear of lowering their self-esteem has contributed to the erosion of discipline and parental influence. The clichéd syndrome, ‘I am on my own’ is feeding isolation and irresponsible individualism.

The  spread of this unhealthy culture of arrogance and rude assertions such as ‘others may go to hell’  need to be debated seriously for the good of society.

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MORNING MANTRA

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M is for Morning

I feel deep reverence for the mystic allure of each morning. When my eyes open to the sweet morning light, stealing benignly through the bedroom window, the whole body responds eagerly to the sensation of freshness and tranquility. Even when up and doing, the silence of the morning connects me to my spiritual self, making me feel light and hopeful.

The first cup of tea pours energy into the system and there you go chasing the morning chores.

In fact, morning sets the mood of the day. For me, the most important activity is the morning walk in the nearby park. It is the greatest mantra for maintaining well-being, which I have adopted since my retirement. There are no more urgent household tasks to be carried out before leaving for work.

Undoubtedly, morning walk or some exercise regime is necessary for a healthy living for all of us. There are no two opinions about the belief that the threesome of prayer, meditation and exercise performed in the morning, work wonders for overall wellness, creativity and productivity.

I experience morning walk as a channel for the restoration of mind body connect, which we have almost lost in the fast pace of modern life. Walk in a park surrounded by trees and floras that emit oxygen in the morning, fill the lungs, improving blood circulation. Brisk walk provides muscular strength to the skeletal and lubricates joints and cells, promoting fitness. It is also your ‘me time’ when day’s distractions haven't  yet invaded your mental space.You converse with your inner self. The greenery around soothes the eyes, envelops you with grace and resilience to face the day.

It’s pure joy to watch the frolicking squirrels and buzzing honey bees and other insects flitting around blooming flowers and creating their own music. It is however, the birds, which steal the morning show. They flutter overhead, chirp, tweet or squeak on the branches conducting an orchestra of improvised notes. It is like nature’s lyrical poetry. Nevertheless, the experience is as holy as participating in a sat sang to rejuvenate the soul.

Morning is time for thanksgiving to God for His countless blessings. Also the consciousness of proper planning for a purposeful day happens in the morning.

A light and healthy breakfast is a great beginning to the day. It accelerates your brain functions, and alerts your responses.

Morning exudes vibes of inexplicable sensuous charm and spontaneous positivity. Childlike innocence of an unpolluted mind is the persona of the morning hour.  Sweeping away inertia, it adds swing to your movements and sees you through the good/bad of each day.

Friends, pl. share your thoughts on the subject.

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